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January 15, 2008
Male-less SundaySometimes, it’s really wonderful to be, male-less This is a male-less Sunday, I did not hang out with any guy friends, nor my ex or any male family members, even my son is going out with his father, this gave me a totally male-less day! Hanging out with my female friends, chatting, laughing … great!
December 26, 2007 TiredShe called me again, at night, and asked me what to do next. I’m feeling tired, and unbearable, honestly. She did not get what I mean, at all, since the beginning. She refuses to think, she refuses to takes the responsibility, too. I’m not trying to abandon her, it’s just not my duty to live her life for her.
November 12, 2007 What is Contentment?Received an email from a friend with an article that might change the way we look at life. At the end of the article it leaves a message to encourage us to send this message to those people who mean something to us, to those who have touched our life in one way or another, to those who make us smile when we really need it, to those that make us see the brighter side of things when we are really down, to those who we want to let them know that we appreciate their friendship. I choose to re-post it here and share it with you: Have you ever, at any one time, had the feeling that life is bad, real bad, and you wish you were in another situation? You find life make things difficult for you, work sucks, life sucks, everything seems to go wrong… Read the following story… it may change your views about life: After a conversation with one of my friends, he told me despite taking 2 jobs, he brings back barely above 1K per month, he is happy as he is. I wonder how he can be as happy as he is considering he has to skimp his life with the low pay to support a pair of old parents, in-laws, a wife, 2 daughters and the many bills of a household. He explained that it was through one incident that he saw in India that happened a few years ago when he was really feeling low and touring India after a major setback. >He said that right in front of his very eyes he saw an Indian mother chop off her child’s right hand with a chopper. The helplessness in the mother’s eyes, the scream of pain from the innocent 4-year-old child haunted him until today. You may ask why did the mother do so; had the child been naughty, had the child’s hand been infected?? No, it was done for two simple words—TO BEG! The desperate mother deliberately caused the child to be handicapped so that the child could go out to the streets to beg. Taken aback by the scene, he dropped a piece of bread he was eating half-way. And almost instantly, a flock 5 or 6 children swamped towards this small piece of bread which was covered with sand, robbing bits from one another. The natural reaction of hunger. Stricken by the happenings, he instructed his guide to drive him to the nearest bakery. He arrived at two bakeries and bought every single loaf of bread he found in the bakeries. The owner was dumbfounded but willingly sold everything. He spent less than $100 to obtain about 400 loaves of bread (this is less than $0..25 per loaf) and spent another $100 to get daily necessities. Off he went in the truck full of bread into the streets. As he distributed the bread and necessities to the children (mostly handicapped) and a few adults, he received cheers and bows from these unfortunate. For the first time in his life he wondered how people can give up their dignity for a loaf of bread which cost less than $0.25. He began to tell himself how fortunate he is. How fortunate he is to be able to have a complete body, have a job! , have a family, have the chance to complain what food is nice and what isn’t nice, have the chance to be clothed, have the many things that these people in front of him are deprived of… Now I begin to think and feel it, too! Was my life really that bad? Perhaps… no, I should not feel bad at all… What about you? Maybe the next time you think you are, think about the child who lost one hand to beg on the streets. “Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, it is the realization of how much you already have.” When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose it, but it’s also true that! we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past,you can’t go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. Author unknown
November 8, 2007 The Think Different Challenge - Better UnderstandingI got an email from Tristan Loo at SynergyInstitute few days ago, letting me know that I was tagged by him on this project called “The Think Different Challenge”, which is an online blogging / writing project started by Peter of IWillChangeYourLife.com. I recently had an argument with my friend Cheng. It happen that one of my best friend Dennis is recently breaking up with his girl friend of 5 years, he first seek the advise from Cheng, but we (Tam and I) were totally disagreed with her advises to Dennis. As of her opinion, this relationship is over since Dennis’ ex girl friend is already started a new relationship with someone else (thing happen when Dennis was still studying in oversea, while his girl friend was graduated and came back here six months earlier than him), but as we seen it it can be mended if Dennis would putting in more effort on getting her back, instead of broken up with her after few deep chat via phone call and emails. I suggested them to at least meet up and talk, no matter what’s the out come will be, it is necessary to make thing clear or even a closure to a relationship, face to face. When Dennis knew that we had the argument because of this, he skype me and asking us not to argue on it or he will be feeling guilty, after all, he was just trying to seek some advises, especially from the lady’s point of view, the decision is still holding by himself. Look at it at a different angle, I told Dennis, do not worry about us arguing, this is actually a good chance for us to know and to understand one another better. The three of us, Tam, Cheng and I, are good friend of 15 years, I believe our friendship will only shine and going deeper after this incident.
The Challenge (Now It’s Your Turn)
The Think Different Challenge is all about finding something in your life you currently have negative thoughts or feelings towards (eg work or your mother-in-law), and deciding to look at it differently. It is about realizing that some things are just a part of life, so we may as well try to find the positives in them. Who Can Participate? The Rules
Here I’d like to tag the following blogging friends to participate into this wonderful Think Different Challenge: Think Different Articles Copied Directly from Peter’s website at IWillChangeYourLife.com. (this list will be regularly updated) 7 Effective Ways to Implement Positive Thinking - We The Change Art is About Thinking Differently - Zaties Blog Think Differently About Blog Posting - Xplorator Body Image Baggage - Goddess Three Ways to Think Differently - The Next 45 Years Who Wants to Live Forever? I do - Scott Andrew Bird Wake Up and Go to Work, Think Differently Today - Juice of Champions The Think Different Challenge - Synergy Institute Thinking Different About Inflation and Debt - The Universe As Psychology’s Unique Contribution to Your Compassion and Self-Esteem - Urban Monk Enjoy reading
October 30, 2007 Secret to Stay YoungI was surprised! I went back to my home town last week, and visited my eldest sister who is now 51-year-old. She looks so young until you can’t figure out how old she is, she looks at least 15 years younger then her real age! And I was so ashamed when I looked at her, my wrinkles even more than her! Sure enough, I ask her her secret to keep her youth, she said, it’s very easy, she didn’t apply those expensive cosmetics or moisturizers….. on her face, she uses the simplest and most probably, the cheapest one that the old generation always uses; and big secret is, she jump into her bed before 10pm every night, and get up early at about 6am every morning. That’s the secret, she said. It’s really simple yet it’s really hard for us who are staying in the heart of the city, where surrounded by friends who will ask you out at night some time, or call you on the phone to relish their emotion or get the moral support from you, or who are so addicted to internet surfing every night, and those who hang around with friends at mamak store (a hang out place where it’s so popular in Malaysia) almost every night to accomplished.
October 4, 2007 RestI am sick since last Saturday; it turns worse since Tuesday, I feel dizzy, with slight fever which come and go; my throat is burning, and one of my toes is swollen without me knowing the cause! As usual, I am a person who hate those little medicine pills given by doctor, the taste of the bitterness in it which left in my mouth when I swallow it make me feel even sick! I will try all other way to cure before I will go for a doctor, a clinic visiting is the last choice I will ever make. And so, now, with no sign I will be getting well soon, and slight difficulty on walking, I decided to go for a doctor after this post There were so many thoughts rambling through my mind, in these few days… without the concentration, and the strength to really sit down for an hour or two, those thoughts just fly by without me able to record it down. And now I’ll treasure my health even more. At certain time, when I was feeling so dizzy, yet I still need to cope with my daily routine and taking care of my two little ones, I really wish, someone will be here taking care of me … Well, enough mumbling and so, I’ll need to go and see the doctor, and rest.
September 28, 2007 September 26, 2007 I was standing on the roof of the worldI was standing on the roof of the world The kind of helplessness and emptiness, putting me into a sense of destruction. I was once feeling despair, like the whole world is going to fall … I was then picking up piece by piece, with faith … Knowing that today is my birthday, Dawn secretly composed a song and sings it to me: Thank you mama (I was initially trying to upload the song to youtube, but because I do not know how to convert the amr format to an acceptable format to youtube, so you can only read the lyric here) and the translated lyric: Thank you mama, for taking care of me every day; Happy Birthday to me.
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