While I am walking the path together with my friend Julia, who is recently suffering the same crisis as I did, while helping her to examining her inner thinking and the necessary steps to re-build her marriage and reconnect with her husband, I see myself…. I rediscovered myself…

I eventually realized why I left my job as a producer in a local broadcasting firm years back.

When my marriage was in crisis, because of the fear of losing my marriage and the one I love, all of my thinking was how to alter my everyday life to suit him, even to trade my career to a so call flexible working hours, million dollars insurance business to just in hope that I can then, have the flexibility to blend into his schedule and being part of his life.

Obviously, I was making a wrong decision that led me to the wrong direction, with the wrong intention, or false judgment in mind. It was not only he might had no intention at all to include me into his life picture at that stage, it was also reflecting a bad self image of myself, to not stand firm on what I love to do, to not knowing the real problems between us.

The most important access we have, as a human, is the dignity and the value in us. People always wanted to be with someone they admired, and people will only admire those with higher value to them.

What we believed in us, is what we projected out to others. If we were to lower down ourselves until a point that the other person sees no value in us at all, the only reaction we will get from them, is disrespectful, or worst, they’ll choose to leave.

As one of the greatest creations of the universe, we are worthwhile and have value, which cannot be taken from us, but sometimes, we just lose sight of it, especially when the one we love so much failed ours expectation; especially when we failed to fulfill the expectation of the one we love. The fearfulness of seeing the disappointment from the one we care so much is scary enough to make us forget ours self value, temporarily if not forever.

We have been taught since young, to be accepted or to fulfill the expectation of the authority, or to being better than others in as many areas as possible in life, to obtain and feel the self worth. But the truth is, we can’t depend on the outer world to grant us to feel ours self worth, as it will easily being shaken by the changing world around us, only if it is comes from within us, only when we started to love and value ourselves from ours inner heart, we can then stand tall with dignity and confidence.

The self worth within us is possibly determines every relationships in our life, we should never give away our power to other people to decide the value in us, it is us who are responsible to fill our life with the value that born with us as a human being in the universe.