Soul Mate
Once talking with one of my friends how difficult to getting attention and getting known by other available men that I’m available, after my divorce and being a single mother of two. “who will want to marry a woman who is divorce and tagged with two young children?” was what’s blurted out from her , although I constantly doing my best to learn and study on many self-improvement skills and parenting skills, with the believe that I’ll meet my soul mate one day when I’m ready and well prepared, but it stereotype of thinking for a divorce single mother still hurt my feeling, especially it comes from a best friend of mine who support and walk the path with me until today. And I wonder how the society is looking at us.
I choose to take what one of my male friends told me with encouragement, he said: “Do not think of your children is an obstacle for you to start a new relationship, in fact, they might be a filter that helps you to filter out those unqualified prospect!” What a wise point of view that inspired us, single mother. It’s instantly shifted and open my mind, and putting a lot of hope into me.
Wise friend, children enhance not impede you, I know I’ve been there too, good luck !! xx
Comment by sally crocker — July 20, 2007 @ 10:35 pm
Well everyone is different. That’s my opinion.
For some the kids will be a problem but….. that is not the type of guy you want.
Divorce….. most people are over that these days. The only reason divorce is more common now is because its easier and more acceptable and people are mostly good with that!
I found my partner by accident after a long time of no dating and it’s been a great time since we met.
Thanks for the encouraging comment on my blog. I’m getting so much support from this community.
Comment by Forest Parks — July 20, 2007 @ 11:48 pm
“Do not think of your children is an obstacle for you to start a new relationship, in fact, they might be a filter that helps you to filter out those unqualified prospect!” i think your friend is totally right!
i think you’ll be more mature now!
Comment by morinn — July 22, 2007 @ 9:39 pm
Hi Sally, thanks for the luck
Forest, thanks for visiting and I wish I will meet my partner by “accident” soon too
You are right Morinn, people always grow from a relationship, good or bad, for me this time, definitely make me a better person
Comment by joanne — July 22, 2007 @ 11:10 pm