Read an interesting blog post titled “Why I’m Giving Up on Making Money“, the author shared an important message he got from the online course that he has taken, it said:

As long as you continue to “seek” money it WILL elude you. I promise!

Money making is not real! (Love seeking is not real!)

Providing quality products and services to people is real & that always leads to money! (Showing gratitude and appreciation to one another is real & that always create love in between.)

Money is an expression of appreciation from one person to another. Expressions of appreciation do not exist without people.

If you try to “make money,” you’re in for a long and fruitless ride.

Instead, please people within a subject matter you are passionate about, You’ll never grow tired of growing your business and your business income will grow as a natural result.

This is really true, it’s not only apply to money, but almost everything in life, love being one of them, like what I quoted above in the bracket. If you’re constantly seeking for love, it’s only tell the universe you’re lacking in love, so it will grant you more; if you’re constantly seeking to make more money, it tells the same thing, you are poor, and your wish will be granted.

To be loved, we must first love ourself. We are the one to teach those around us how to treat us, what can we expect from others if we ourself can’t treat ourself well?

We were being told over and over how important it was to treat others how you wanted to be treated while growing up, but why then as an adult we lost track on doing so by taking things for granted, especially from those who are closest to us? This being one of the worst behavior that always get us back fired.

I do believe we are the best teacher to show the best example on how to treat ourself to the best, so others would know how we want to be treated, by having a owner’s manual (when you buy a new electrical appliance, it comes with a user manual, telling you what you can do and what you cannot do with it, to prolong it functionality).

Come to think of my own situation, I realized I was the one to allow my ex to be unfaithful and cheated on me. If I’d stand firm on my ground, if I were to more assertive and took the necessary actions, and showing him my owner’s manual, he would learned that he can’t treat me in that way unless he prepared to lost our family and me. But I did not.

That’s the crucible in my life, and a process of self-growth, in a painful way.